Memorial candles A great deal of thought has gone into the subject of my 3rd blog post Memorial candles, as I very much appreciate, it is not a subject that most of us would wish to read about, however, I hope you will….
I recently had the privilege of personalising a Memorial Candle for St. Clements Church in Urmston, Manchester for their candle lighting table. I included a verse by an unknown author which had some beautiful words, and which, when read, may bring some kind of inner warmth and comfort.
This then got me thinking... The one thing in life that is guaranteed to come to us all at some point, is the experience of bereavement. This is a subject, unlike, say a Wedding or Christening that we will never learn how to cope with or indeed read about in advance. Suffering the loss of a Mother – Father – Brother – Sister – Daughter – Son – Other Family members and friends or a much loved cat or dog, each and every experience by all of us that we will go through will be completely different.
For some may never get over the loss but for most we, in time, will learn to live with this in our own way. Mourning and grieving will then, at some point, move on to being a thanksgiving and celebration of a loved one ‘s life and will bring fond memories to the fore.
Bereavement is a traumatic and devastating time for tragically, we can experience the loss of a loved far too soon, as they may not have had the opportunity to experience any life or the other extreme we can celebrate that they lived to a ‘ripe old age’. Some are taken with no warning and for some it may be after a long and painful illness, but, for most of us, we will not want to accept the inevitable as it’s human nature to ‘hold on to’ for as long as we can.
The saying we often hear “In time the pain will go way” for me, in my experiences, it has, for I have forgotten the massive pain I felt at the time, however, this is replaced with another pain, one that can be dealt with, it’s the pain of loosing, missing, loving, touching and many many more emotions and feelings. There will be a time for all of us where we will be able to cry with some joy at the many happy memories we will be able to bring to mind or in conversations with family and friends.
It’s at time’s like this when we truly appreciate family and friends as they will know what we are going through and will always be there to lend a shoulder or helping hand at any time. One thing is for sure, we are not alone.
The giving of a Personalised Memorial candle In Loving Memory of a loved one, In Memory of or a Condolence Candle may bring some comfort, but, in the meantime they are….
Sadly missed along life’s way, quietly remembered every day, no longer in our lives to share, but in our hearts, they are always there.